I feel like I have to have a talk with him about this. I have to at least try.
jluebs, I TOTALLY get you here. I've felt this and done it too. That is what is in your heart and you have every right to do this. I hope he hears you and I hope he does something to help himself. Please just take care of yourself and don't change your mind about going to Al-Anon. As much as HE needs to hear things, YOU do too. (((hugs)))