I do see and hear the desperation in him and I recognize it so well.....I went through it while he was drinking and in jail. I am understanding to a fault at times which is why I no I ca not do this alone and need reminding of what I'm dealing with. I plan to continue to follow my head and not my heart. Not an easy task. My replies to him have been exactly what learning to live said. "Take care of yourself and stay sober" it is something good that can come of such a painful situation. And yes thank you for the reminders.....actions are what counts....the words are meaningless w out them. I wish I could turn it off and on so easily. I continue to move foward and care for me and my children.....we are still recoving from the wreckage of his relapse.....I need these reminders to stay strong and avoid the insanity at all costs