I liken it to the mouse being taunted by the cat. Just when the poor mouse thinks it has the solution and tries to get away, the cat grabs it again.
Why do they do that push pull cr*p?? Maybe some insight from someone who is recovered can enlighten me. Even in recovery though there is that push/pull thing.
I think they are just emotionally crippled that until they realize they stand to lose something then they wake up from their stupor.
I don't know. I need a cup of coffee *grumble*.