Originally Posted by
ebarash Finally, on a personal level, I keep remembering how great our relationship was, when we were both working a program.
AA has taught me to live in the moment, to see things as they are at this time, and act accordingly.
When I start living in the past, or fantasizing about a possible future, I am headed for trouble. I am not living in today.
I threw away 4 years of sobriety after engaging in a relationship I had no business being in. I rationalized it was okay because he was sober 2 years.
He relapsed, and I wasn't far behind.
It was not worth it.
I was lucky to make it back into recovery after 2 miserable months of binge drinking.
He never made it back, and 20 years later is still busy drinking himself to death.