Originally Posted by
brokenheartfool 
I simply don't believe that a higher power is going to take care of everything.
BHF - I don't think you have to believe this for Al-anon / 12 Steps to work for you. For me, a big part of "turning it over" is letting go of my judgments, opinions and expectations, and then practicing acceptance. A book I read on mindfulness and recovery suggested using the Power Of Things As They Are as a higher power. Maybe that would be helpful for you. Best, John