Originally Posted by
JW123 
Thank you for your reply. I ignored him completely yesterday and focused on my three children. At 9pm I got a message " I need some time to heal JW123. Not because I dont love you but because I love you big time. I know you dont understand but please give me time". I mean he SAYS all the right stuff but his actions are the confusing thing. DAMN IT - I think I am in love with an alcoholic.
Please check into Alanon meetings in your area if you haven't already. You will find understanding and face-to-face support.
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie is an excellent starter book.
You have three children to care for. Give them the gift of a mother who is emotionally present for them.
He made the decision to drink again. He's got a lot of issues to work out if he's serious about sobriety again.
You don't need to take on those issues, dear.
