Cyranoak

How are you avoiding controlling his recovery/sobriety? Also, you need to attend Al-Anon and you should go more than once a week.

Now pretend I'm telling you this every day. Now pretend you are super stressed out from trying to focus on yourself, kind of know it might be a good idea, and don't want other people telling you what to do but I keep telling you this every day regardless.

Am I helping?

Now, all that aside and I'm only going to say this once (once is concern, more than once is nagging and controlling), you might consider getting yourself to an Al-Anon meeting. At least six different meetings before you decide if it is for you.

Good luck.

Cyranoak