The VA has extended their professional support. The next move is in her hands.
no. the next move is not in her hands.
the next move is in YOUR hands.
cyanoaks is right. she will always be an alcoholic or an alcoholic in recovery. and if you read more here, both scenerios come with a lot of difficulty for the spouse.
the fact that she calls the police and lies is not good. you've already been in jail 3 times. i know of a woman who ripped her own hair out, report domestic abuse and the man was charged. they are crazy with the drink.
it would be good if you started thinking about yourself. a criminal record is not a good thing to go thru life with. it makes getting jobs difficult. plus, she might actually hurt you while you are sleeping one of these nights.
please consider all the advice here and don't marry her. once you marry her, you will be legally responsible if she does something crazy, like smash a car. you will be liable for her debt and alcoholics burn through money.