Originally Posted by
LucyA 
I think theres always a reason for the way things happen.
On the day my brother died my mum was supposed to be looking after all 3 of my kids.
Joe, my brothers son somehow ended up going to his other aunts for the weekend.
Dan my eldest came home for some reason I can't remember now.
James my youngest ended up going to help my aunt with her garden (and she very rarely has any of my kids)
Maybe it's your wifes HP keeping her out of things until she really needs to be there.
It's funny you should say that...she went out of town for work the last time while hospice was involved with her grandmother in August. She had hemmed and hawed about going but finally decided grandma was stable enough so she went. She took a turn for the worse while my wife was gone. Her mom and I debated about how much to tell her about grandma's prognosis but ended up telling her everything. She was a wreck that time, also. Grandma passed away the Wednesday after she got back.
I think there is a reason for it, and I'm glad for it if it serves a purpose, but I don't know what to say to her in the meantime, how to try to make her feel better or something...