The sad thing is that I kind of believed him when he told me that something is wrong with me and that I needed help. I am so thankful to alanon, naranon, and all of the people that I have met on forums like this one. You have helped me realize that, yes, in fact I do need help. Just not the kind of help that my AH was refering to.
And boy was he disappointed the first time I came back with, "Yes, you are right. I know I need help." (You should have seen the look of self satisfaction on his face!)
"I need help so I can figure out why I have been listening to your bullsh*t for so long." (The look of self satisfaction disappeared, as I did a happy dance in my head.)