The 3 A's of recovery:
Awareness
Acceptance
Action
Acceptance had to tip the scale before I could make the decision to leave.
I had to accept that I could not change, control or cure the behaviors of my partner.
I wanted to be treated with respect and as an equal partner in life by my spouse. I was not being treated with respect or as an equal partner.
I wanted openness and honesty from my life partner. I was being lied to and manipulated.
I wanted a better life for myself and my children. I chose to leave my marriage in search of a better life.