I hear your pain...
I lived with this situation on and off with my exhusband for a long time and decided that we had to end our marriage. Not to say that you will do the same, we are all so different, look within for the resolution to your pain and protect your children...there isn't much any of us could do to help our spouses if they didn't acknowledge and get help themselves. alcohol is so difficult...find peace my friend, you are in the right place.