this morning there is video court for my child to answer to her crimes, all alcohole related, she called many times from jail yesterday, i finally could not take it and answered, i could here the panic and desperation in her voice, i will not bail her out, but do i even go to the video confrence, i want to see that she is ok, just see her, she begged me to be there. do i go, i so respect all of your opionions! what would you do?