I've been really struck in my sobriety by the realization that normal drinkers don't find it completely abnormal when someone doesn't want a drink. Who knew?
I'm also quite surprised that everyone was not getting as trashed as I thought they were...it was mostly me!
If someone has a big problem with me not drinking, that is about them, not me.
"No thanks, not today" rings pretty honest for me these days.
And I don't spend a lot of time around people socializing for the sole purpose of drinking. It's boring and just not a good spiritual place for me to be. I'll show up if there is a reason but if I can't be around it and not bothered by the drinking, I take my sober butt elsewhere.