He would have to walk because the busses are not taking any kids within a 2 mile vicinity. I agree with all of you, I don't care what AH thinks actually, I was just making the point that he is still in denial, that is all. You are right, if I let son go with dad then I am acting like I don't think he has an alcohol problem. I will tell him about the not drinking 12 hours before a visit, but how is that monitored? I mean really how will I know? I think I will make up a contract that states he agrees to not drink and drive while son is in his care so I will have some evidence if needed later on? This is so new to me, my parents never divorced, so I have no idea. thanks everyone!