Thank you all. I can't decide which I think I need to focus on more. Struggling not to drink was never a daily struggle, where as struggling not to strangle my dad, or XABF was, lol. I plan on going to two meetings for each every week. I don't know how working the steps for both will go, can I work the same steps at the same time for each one? Like just start on step 1 with both? And continue? I just love Al-anon it gives me more of a feeling of peace than AA does, AA makes me feel like I'm not being judged but because I didn't get as bad as everyone there I sometimes feel out of place. I'm trying a more women oriented meeting thursday though.