Hi Hadassah,
My son is 13 and my daughter 11. My son is probably oblivious to it because him and I are the one with the most in common and hang out more. My daughter though, spends more time with my wife so she might already know. My daughter although more emotional than my son keeps things bottled-up. She's such a cutie-pie ...
thanks for the words of encouragement.
I was also thinking of going to one of my wife's good friend. My wife is such a great person, always listening to people always helping but she's the one who needs help and maybe a "girlfriend" will help.