Yup, I'll second what Flutter said. My first husband got sober before we got married, but his good, strong recovery made it possible for us to maintain an extraordinarily friendly and supportive relationship long after the divorce. We disagree on some issues, but always respectfully, and the one who is most affected gets to make the decision. I stay with him and his wife when I go to visit my kids (now college-age). You can't put a price tag on any of that.