Hey good to see you!
I'm sorry what happened. That sucks.
BUT I'm so greatful you shared this. Thank you. It's hard for people to realize that the disease of codependency has consequences. We get so focused on the addict, we lose control of our lives. And yes their are consequences for that.
Maybe this will touch someone and help them "let go and let god" take care of the addict in their lives, so they can take care of the things that really matter.
Not saying you didn't. You are a great mom. But bummer about the tardies. We don't really think about those kinds of things when we are caught up in our own problems. So often those kinds of things can be prevented.
For me, I thought I was doing the right thing by letting my addict ex pop in and out of his son's life whenever he was sober and thought about it. All I accomplished by doing that was setting my son up for disappointment later. It would have been so much better if I'd just let go when he was a baby.
Live and learn. We all have to deal with the consequences of our choices.