Oh honey I completely feel ya.I got 2 words for you..SOBER LIVING..not very expensive and the house mother rides their a%$ like you wouldn't believe..no laying around snoozing.I would be knocking on deaths door if I had my daughter (who is newly in recovery as well) living here. I am unable to detach that much, as are most parents.You almost cannot help but watch for signs of relapse, try to monitor their recovery, etc.My daughter and I are not getting along that well right now and I am so glad she is two hours away.Sobriety doesn't fix everything and certainly not immediately. For your own sanity I stronly suggest you look into sober living..possibly not even in your town, but a little bit away.My RAD is now actually LISTENING to other people in the house.Do you think she would listen to 1 thing her mother tells her..I think you know the answer to that!Just like we didn't need a front row seat to their self destruction, we don't need a front row seat to their recovery either.