thanks for the 'Aha' moment!
I have learned in my recovery that sharing my concern and feelings one time is my way of communicating with another. If I find myself repeating the information, I am trying to control or manipulate the other person.
I know that wasn't the main idea of your post, but I can't tell you how enlightening that is for me in my particular case. I won't change the subject of this thread, but wanted to say "Thank you, thank you, thank you" for that bit of wisdom.