Hey eremc,
I'm sorry you feel let down - I get it - and driving home was really stupid...but we don't shoot our wounded here...& if we can have that understanding for fellow members here, we should be able to extend it to our spouses too I think, yeah?
I don't think he 'did it to you' - he probably didn't think much at all.
But that's humans/husbands/men for ya
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