FM I found that I can only be strong and not triggered when I have NO contact with STBXAH. Not even email. After almost 8 months we are not even exchanging email. And it is good for me.
He and I had a brief encounter in our home (I no longer live there) after court. He made an accusation that was absolutely untrue. I completely flipped out... yelling at him. I didn't even realize I was yelling until he said something. His sister was there. She must have thought I was nuts.
I am grateful I no longer have to see, talk or deal wih him.