I'm with Naive and Cymbal, Thumper: you did really well.
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Thumper 
It is devastating for them but I'm glad. I'm happy about it - is that totally evil of me. :sigh: There is so much less for me to contend with if he is out of state.
You're not evil. You're an amazing woman and a great mom! Please don't be so hard on yourself about being happy to have more distance between you and XAH. I think it's only normal to be happy about having more space to work on our own recovery and focus on ourselves and children. It's incredibly hard to do either when an A is in the picture.
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Thumper Just felt like getting it out and I no longer talk about this stuff with IRL person because she just goes off on what i should make him do or how I should do this that or the other or I'd better not do this that or the other. To exhausting.
Bleh. Glad you're able to come here and 'talk' to us.
Take gentle care of yourself, Thumper. Give your kids a big ole hug.