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Old 10-28-2010, 03:48 PM
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Has anyone put their child (grown) out, with no where, no car, no friends and no money?
Yes, chicory, I had to put my son out when I found those damn needles again in his room.
He tried to guilt me, "you abandoned me as a kid, and you are abandoning me now"
I told him, "I gave you a place to live and you broke the rules. That is it."
He did have a car, but he soon lost it, because he went to jail, and then a diversion program. I could not and would not take care of the car or any of his responsibilities.
He just got out, called me, and sounds like he is on the right track again.
He can do this chicory. Believe me, your son can do this.
Nothing he says means anything (the hurtful things) because it is his addicted brain talking to you and trying to keep things as they are. But that keeps you down and miserable. You have paid your dues. You have done what you could.
Time for both of you to find out what he can do by himself.

Beth
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