There is no way of knowing what his underlying problems are as he is in active addiction. I have learned to trust the professionals and let them do their jobs. That's what they are trained to do.Most 40 year old's mommies do not talk to their therapist behind their back.Not healthy.He is a grown man and is OWED the dignity of no interference. It has taken Chicory a LONG time to get to this realization. I fully support her plan to let him do it himself. An Alnon DoN'T..don't keep checking up on the alcoholic.Also don't do for someone what they can do for themselves.If I was a social worker/therapist/addiction counselor and a 40 year olds mother came to me..I would pretty much know where the problem was stemming from.