Why not pick a really nice place to have lunch with, invite a good friend you haven't seen for a long time, and ask the dish that looks the tastier TO YOU? and the drink you prefer, alcoholic or not?? a lunch where you can actually feel valued by yourself and have a true ally next to you, who is also willing to spend a good time and has NEVER EVER DONE HARM TO YOU, and won't do any harm to you in his or her life, because its just NOT who they are??