Timetolive, Hope you find your brother is safe. I guess I really should check out an Alanon meeting. I am focusing more on myself these days (since both kids are in school full day) and taking up tennis and photography. But I also have a full plate w my kids - son has very high functioning autism and daughter has some insatiability issues. So the stress never really ends (fighting the school for services for my son, working on the issues w daughter, dealing w my parents who are in denial, feeling like my only sibling is now estranged...)
Thanks to you both for responding..atleast helps to know I'm not alone. Hope you both are spending time on yourselves...