They are the ultimate actors aren't they? They con and manipulate and tell you what you want to hear.
Honestly, unless you had experience with people like the before, how the heck could you know? Even if I had run background checks etc. on my insane ex (I think he's my X now) it wouldn't have shown anything.
It wasn't until much later, in close proximity, that I noticed that what he said didn't match up with reality. He lives a life based on lies, and keeps himself far away from people who can expose those lies.
I would have had to live with him prior to marriage, which would have done the same thing (expose me and my child to a nut) minus the legal mess of marriage and divorce.
I don't know maggie, he lied and I believed him since I had no reason to think he'd lie about such things.
I still feel like an idiot, and I still feel guilt over it. But you know what? I learned a very powerful lesson...and one I'm not likely to ever forget. Maybe my daughter did too.
