we were not going to have him handcuffed or anything. I have told him he is leaving this weekend, that i dont want him here anymore, that it is too painful for me, and not helping him. if several family members are here, and i am telling him to leave, and my son in law is there to just over see and drive him to the shelter, that may not be against any laws. that may be enough to make him go . it was not going to be a bogus forced leaving. just a "you have to go" and hope that he does not cause trouble. he is not a violent guy, or a fighter. son in law is just there, for my support. he cares about my son too.