Dear Chicory, I hope that everything works out this weekend according to your plans. However, as I previously posted you can not really force your son out without formally evicting him even if he's not paying rent. Since you have allowed your son to use your home as his legal address it is required by law that you officially process all the required paperwork for eviction. As I previously posted I have had to call the police a couple times to help calm my grandson down. Once your son has been served the paperwork he has 30 days to leave your residence. I know that doesn't sound like justice for us, but that is just the facts. That is why I suggested you might want to be prepared to move out temporarily.
However, if your son doesn't know his rights and you can get the help of your police officer son-in-law to assist you in removing your son from your home, good for you! I know all to well how it is to live with a love one who doesn't want to respect us.
Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace amid the storm!