Originally Posted by
TakingCharge999 
BklynGirl, you are years light ahead of where I was when going through something similar. I am sure you will find someone with whom you can grow.
Also, are you going to a therapist? mine says codependence is just like alcoholism, in that AA/ Al anon is maintenance, but real change is made through therapy. Just like dry drunks codies can be "dry codies".
Just my two cents. You are going to feel so much better in a short time! I am really glad you are asking for help.
That takes guts.
Yes I stated therapy close to two years ago when my mom passed. Initally it was to help with the grief but over time I came to slowly realize I'm not living up to the life I want. And now here I am trying to change things for me. Some days are harder than others. I've been wallowing since Friday.
But something about today has me feeling positive once again.