Dear BEE2010, you wrote " I communicated that I need more physical intimacy in order to be satisfied and asked if anything was wrong and if he was attracted to me. His answer had to do with addiction: He said that this isn't the first time this has been an issue in a relationship. He said that he doesn't know if it is because of his years of substance abuse and porn addiction. He said that he objectifies women, and that when they become "real" he loses interest. He mentioned perhaps seeing a therapist to deal with this- but tried to assure me that it wasn't me."
I believe your boyfriend's response was very truthful and honest with you. When your relationship was fresh and in the early stages having sex with you was produced by adrenaline produced by the new experience. However, now that your relationship has progressed into the next stage he has started suffering from alcohol impotence. Sex between you and your boyfriend has settled into more intimacy and comfort than the "exciting experience".
Long-term alcohol abuse affects the nervous system and impairs the impulses between the brain's pituitary gland and the genitals. The nervous system is responsible for triggering the signals that dilate and relax the blood vessels in the penis resulting in an erection. Clinical studies have shown that prolonged alcohol abuse causes irreversible damage to the nerves in the penis, which results in alcohol impotence. Alcoholism disrupts hormone levels, in particular, testosterone and estrogen. Low levels of testosterone diminish sexual drive and function.
Case studies have shown that long-term alcohol abuse causes alcohol impotence in men even when they are sober. Apart from the damage caused to the nervous system by alcoholism, it's believed that the associated decline in physical and psychological health can contribute to this.
A number of treatment options are available to help overcome alcohol impotence. Usually the first course of action is impotence drug therapy. Impotence pills such as Viagra, Cialis and Levitra have proven to be very successful in treating male impotence. If there has been vascular damage caused by excessive alcohol, impotence injections provide a reliable, safe and effective treatment for alcohol impotence.