I have been thinkng about the 3 C's all night long. I know that I didn't cause it... and that I definately cannot cure it, I guess that I've always tried to control it though. I tried to control his drinking or at least monitor it. I've tried to control my environment and the situation, which has been so deeply impacted by his addiction. I love my husband, he is a fantastic husband, father, and friend... when he is sober. I feel helpless in this situation, I don't know what to do to improve my family life. When I try and have an honest discussion with him about his drinking, he agrees with me but then drinks more later just to spite me. If I can't talk to him without him punishing me with his drinking what am I to do? I feel like I am walking on eggshells, that there is this elephant in the room that we are not talking about, and that I am trapped between my emotions and his addiction.