Originally Posted by
KerBearz 
I think you all are on to something with this "surrender" idea... I have never thought of it in terms of trying to control God. I have always believed that God wants families to stay together, but I like the idea of giving it all up to him and he'll give back what he wants me to have.
It may very well be that God wants families to stay together.
However, God has also given man free will to use, even destructively, if he so chooses, rather than live life on a spiritual basis.
The active alcoholic
is self-will run riot.
My disease is threefold-physical, emotional, and spiritual.
I had to address all three areas in order to achieve true recovery.
There's a huge difference between abstinence and sobriety.
My EXAH always had 'jail house remorse' when incarcerated. As soon as he'd get back out, it was the same old same old.