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Old 10-24-2010, 10:52 AM
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Originally Posted by Freedom1990 View Post

It took every single miserable experience in my life to finally hit a bottom at 28 and go to rehab.

It is possible to love a child to death.
Worthy of repeating.

How has giving him room and board worked out, thus far?

Being able to remain at home deprives your child of the opportunity to realize the consequences of addiction. If there are no painful consequences, there are no reasons to contemplate an alternative.

Your child, ( like my own did ) risks life every single time he scores and shoots. Making it easier for him to do so by giving him a comfy place to stay is a contributing factor.

Your son is going to do what he's going to do, no matter what you do, or not.
You and your husband are powerless over your son and his addiction. Sustaining a belief otherwise is a reflection of our own egos and role in the situation.

Anger is usually the result of unmet expectations and does not serve a useful purpose.
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