I can't speak for the OP, maybe he'll come back and tell us how he felt.
My desire was to draw your attention away from the OP, away from the question of who is right and who is wrong, and let you see that I think these might be feelings you are having about and for yourself. We "codies" tend to have way too much empathy for others
but neglect our own feelings. I also didn't want you to feel scared to post and wanted to show you that if someone's post bothers you, the Mods are always there for you to help you.