It seems this thread has run its course with plenty of answers to the OP.
Remember,we are all at different places in our recovery.Some of us are brand new here with questions and no idea where to turn.Others have had some experience with As yet continue to have questions and challenges. Regardless, we need to remember to treat one another with dignity and respect. There are no quick answers or easy solutions to the relationships problems that come with the disease of alcoholism.
I recommend we move on. I will close the thread if necessary.