Originally Posted by
keepinon 
chicory..a job is not gonna fix this.There is no cure. There is only recovery. No job, friends, girlfriend, college degree, nothing is going to fix this except him working a recovery program. I have to agree with your daughter.If his dad sends him money..that is between them. Now, drinking in your house..that is your problem.You can't manipulate, cajole, or control him out of it. You can choose not to be an active participant by giving him a place to live, allowing him to drink in your home, etc. THAT is what you have control over.As for the saving money..wasn't this money he spent on booze for fines? If history is any indicator, there will be no saving money to move out. That is a delaying tactic, I fear. When x y and z happen, then I can have him leave.xy and z are never gonna happen cuz he's an active alcoholic.You want him to have a place to go..most likely he will not. Let go of the fantasy .. it isn't working . The actual reality may be more than you could even dream possible, but you won't know till you LET HIM GO.
i know a job is not going to fix him.but he wants this job. he did have one in construction that he held for a while. whether he gets recovery or not, has nothing to do with that. my sister wants to find him a cheap place, and get him out of here. if he keeps it, good, if he does not, well, that is his problem. he has been want ing a job badly , especially one that is not minimum wage.
once he is out, he is not gonna come back. he will hit bottom sooner or later.