thank you , so much.
i am going to do those very things. and i feel a bit better knowing that i am not the worst case of enabler ever.
igotta get in bed now, and will sleep better, with a plan. i work early tomorrow. i try not to dread coming home each day. cant wait to not dread my days.
hugs to you and all. thank you, for all the help and understanding. it makes a difference.