Originally Posted by TakingCharge999

"Action plan" (for her)
-Talk to the chair so he or she reminds everybody its about recovery and its alcoholics ANONYMOUS, you don't have to say anything and you don't have to give your telephone to anyone and you can go anytime and you can leave at any time...
-Sit close to the other women
-Wear earplugs so while walking from AA to the car, no catcalls etc can get to her
-Close car windows
-Wear dark glasses (works for me to avoid unwanted eye contact)
-Dress conservatively
-Have a working mobile phone available at all times for 911 and Police # in speed dial


Of course one shouldn't need to do all this, but it is what it is. In Alanon we learn others actions or non actions shouldn't prevent us to stick to our plan. I agree with the ones above, she is an ex, and real change takes time. We need time away from the last ex to really learn and grow, constant contact doesn't help anyone.