I had my son move out. He'd been to college one sem. and bombed out.
Then he went to quickie rehab, returned to our home and quickly relapsed.
I had him leave bec. I couldn't handle the chaos in our home.
That being said, his disease progressed. You'll see that in or out of our homes
addiction progresses.
It is easier for us in some ways when they must move out.
But not being able to live at home in itself does not usually change the course of their addiction.
Do you have the means to offer long-term treatment ? There are treatment places just for young adults that are 12-18 mos.
Do learn all you can about addiction. It has stolen your son's soul. It takes time and
effort to get him back.
I got more response with my son when I was compassionate instead of angry.
Often as you know we just have to detach for awhile until they can be nudged into treatment.
4 yrs. is a long time to watch your boy self-destruct. I am so sorry this is the hand you've been dealt. Don't give up on him.