I'm glad you found this forum. I can only imagine what you're feeling, but I know it helps to have a place you can go and share your story, vent a little, and find support.
As you've realized, there is some comfort in knowing you're not alone. My own AW is in denial, and gets angry at me when I suggest she has a problem or needs to get help. I feel a little guilty myself for telling my family and acquaintances about her drinking, but I feel compelled to be honest with them. As her condition deteriorates, I'm going to need their support, or at least their understanding.
Best of luck to you, and keep posting.