Originally Posted by Learn2Live

You are saying two completely different things.



On one hand you are saying, "I accept his drinking" and on the other hand you are saying, "I do not accept his drinking." Pick one. You either accept it or you don't. If you accept it (as you say you do) too bad for you that you don't like he is blaming you for his drinking. Because ALL alcoholics blame someone ELSE for their drinking. Work on your anger. Let it go. Lower your expectations. Do NOT expect an active alcoholic NOT to blame YOU for ALL of his problems. Instead, expect that he WILL blame YOU for EVERYTHING. Then, you have nothing to be angry about.

You have said in your post that you made a conscious decision to marry an alcoholic because you WANT to be with an alcoholic. Well, THIS is part of being married to an alcoholic. Just ignore him. But then that doesn't sound like much of a relationship.