hi forge-
hey, you don't have to live with him if you don't want to. it's your life.
mine used to quit drinking and be repentent just long enough to hook me back, and then it would all start over again.
oh, and being sober whilst imprisoned doesn't really count, as it's forced sobriety.
try to take care of yourself. for me, part of that meant getting some distance and space to process the abuse i had suffered. my therapist helped me a lot too.
i know for myself, i need peace in my home. i love coming home now, shutting my door and having peace! plus, i can make whatever i want to eat, i can talk to whoever i want to talk to, my bills are in good order and i can sleep without worrying that he'll burn the house down with druncken cooking at 2am.
if you feel to, can you let us know a bit more about the violence? is there a restraining order in place? do you feel safe?
naive