I also did the whole "agree to disagree" thing; it never worked
I think that was the approach I was trying to take... some would say I was in denial. Could be. I thought that I could detach and coexist with my AW and just ride it out.
I was only kidding myself. She now has an alcohol-related injury that has temporarily incapacitated her. Now I'm being forced to deal with her... physically and financially.
It's like my HP...or Karma...has grabbed me by the ear and said, "You can't ignore this".