Welcome to SR, I am glad you found us. Keep reading and posting, and going to Al Anon.
I see a therapist too, and I've found it helpful, however, I must say that not all therapists have a good enough understanding and/or experience dealing with alcoholism, so Alanon and Sober Recovery have been so incredibly helpful.
My ex ABF saw a therapist, went to AA, did all these things to keep me in the relationship. But really he just got better at hiding his drinking. He was drinking the morning too. I was amazed. We had been so in love and so happy. Alcoholism sucks. But I have learned that they will lie and sneak and do anything to protect the addiction. It only gets worse. And most of us stay too long hoping that things will get better.
My prayers are with you. Continue to take care of yourself. Don't bargain with an active alcoholic. "Trying to reason with an active alcoholic is like trying to tell a schizophrenic not to hear voices." Cannot be done. Take Care Of You.