I took my XAH to two treatment centers. He lasted 3 days each time. I drove 100 miles to get him (shouldn't have) and by the time I got there he was passed out in a hotel so smashed he didn't hear me knock on the door. He had enough booze to stay drunk for a week. I think my X will die of this disease. I do not see surrender in his future. But I did surrender. I let go. I read on SR to "let go or be dragged."