Old 10-20-2010, 04:06 AM
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Carol Star
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Wow...what a powerful thread for me....had the alcoholic Dad, lots of anger. In Alanon I started to learn not to engage with XAH when he was drinking. My body definitely would tell me I was stressed...he opened a beer every 7 minutes....it drove me nuts. I got to where and even now I observe my body reacting.....meditation helps too.....just observe....long walks help.....I had PTSD from the alcoholic Dad. As my husband's disease progressed and I saw I was powerless over him (like Dad's). When I seperated from XAH and he would call- even over the phone I would get bent out of shape. My therapist said "it's just a voice".....My XAH was not open to AA or treatment and we did finally divorce after about 4 years of trying to hold it together. Love was not enough. The disease won in my case. He chose alcohol over family. Your body will hold the stress. It does pass. The word emotion.....(motion)...it will move. Detach with love.
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