If I were in your shoes I'd be getting things ready to leave him for the good of the kids. They don't deserve to live in such an unhealthy environment or to grow up believing it's normal. It isn't.
Please do take a look at our friends and families forum. You need some help gathering your thoughts and planning an exit strategy. He'll never reach any kind of 'bottom' if he's constantly enabled to keep on as he's doing.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...tance-abusers/
Welcome to SR!
